The First Match(March 2006)

It looked so easy on television. All you had to do was fill out this personality profile and they would match you with men who were perfect for you based on that profile. It sounded wonderful to a woman like me who had always been the chubby girl who didn't date much and was shy around men because of it.
It was March 2006. I had just finished losing 90 lbs on Weight Watchers and was shopping in the petite department and buying size petite mediums. But I never got it through my head that I looked good enough to attract a man. I should have gotten the clue-a group of college boys once whistled at me when they pulled up behind me as I was unloading my SUV . But I didn't and so I thought the only way I could meet someone special was if I filled out those questions and joined the dating website that promised you would meet your soulmate. So I did . Not only that but I paid for a whole year of it,thinking that surely within that year Prince Charming would come across my computer screen. Little did I know that the year would turn into three years and numerous dating websites.
I hadn't dated in over 20 years so I was a little out of practice. Not only that but I had spent those years teaching classes full of young children. The nearest thing to a cuss word I heard all day was "dummy" and the biggest insult was telling someone you wouldn't invite them to your birthday party. I was naive and trusting-too much so for my own good(I still am but I'll discuss that later).
I sat there that first day and watched the screen as the names of about 10 men who were my first matches popped up. I'm changing the names and locations... The restaurant owner from Brandon,Ms. Nearby but I knew who he was from the photo in front of his restaurant. I taught his niece when she was 5. No thank you(and that's all I'm sayin)... Somebody from Millington,Tn ,which is close to Memphis. Good,I used to live in Memphis and it might be fun to move back. BUT this guy wanted a woman who would hunt,fish and be his farm hand. No thank you,I'm too much of a girly girl for that and can't even bait my own hook. Several others. And one named Philip from a neighboring state. I read his profile, commercial real estate developer,active in his nondenominational church and involved in right to life ministries .Hmm.I thought.
So I asked to communicate with Philip,even thought being the first to initiate contact was against my better instincts. He replied with the first set of questions. I was thrilled. I was so thrilled that I went to the bookstore and read the Max Lucado book that he said was his favorite . We exchanged our must haves and can't stands, They fit perfectly. I got exactly one real e/mail from him that we exchanged through the website. I wrote back and then he disappeared.
Little did I know but Philip was the first of many men who did that. They would act interested,exchange an e/mail or two and then vanish. That's the first thing I learned about online dating. Men can look at you and talk a bit and then move on when the next woman they are attracted to pops on the screen. Once in a while it works but with 90% of the men this is what happens....

SO here I sit. Still single and about 50 lbs heavier from sitting in front of the computer. Enough said. I stocked up on Lean Cuisines and fruit this morning and now I'm off to enjoy being outside on this gorgeous day.. :-) My prayer is that this is my new habit instead of online dating..

Next post will be about the first match I actually talked to- its a doozy....